The 90-day rule refers to when a person waits 90 days in a new relationship to have sex. Usually, it refers to the woman waiting 90 days but it can apply to anyone. You shouldn't put so much pressure on the sex part of a starting a relationship. Your first instinct should be, if you even like the person you’re dating. Now, if you know me, I don’t judge. You can get it on, the first date, after 90 days or never. You have to do what works best for you. Don't do the 90 days to trap a guy. If a guy has a hit it and quit it mentality. No amount of days will change that f*ckboy.
I do think if you like a person and you don’t want your feelings hurt that it’s good to wait a bit before sex. So you can get to know the person. But if you feel you got to know them on that first date and you can’t hold back. Then go for it! You have to listen to yourself. Create your own social norms. Since I keep it 100 with y’all. I’ve never had sex on the first date. That’s because I usually don’t know how I completely feel about someone until around date number 3. Then It’s a few more dates until I’m ready to see some D. Now I said a few dates I didn’t say 90 days. That’s MY timeline though.
Anyway, if you decide to do the 90-day rule you should still hint to the person that you’d like to take things slow. You don’t have to outright say you’re doing the 90-day rule. Gage their response, pay attention to body language and follow up questions. If you tell someone that and they still try to pressure you that’s red flag number one.
If sex is important, make sure to get intimate in other ways during the 90 days. Since if they can’t make out or kiss. You can throw the whole plan away because the sex might end up being trash at the end of this. So check out their make out and dry hump technique. That’s what you’ll have to work with later… naked. I speak for the sexually charged women. If you don’t care what his D game is. Carry on with the 90 days.
I don’t agree with the 90-day rule because it’s a rule. When it comes to relationships you can’t always have strict rules. You have to live and let things flow. Things can get complicated and you can miss out on fun moments when you stick to rules. Especially when there is no one size fits all rules when it comes to sex. People have gotten married after hooking up the first night they met. While people have waited 90 days to get screwed over and their feelings hurt. It’s best to get to know the person that you’re dating and be open-minded about when the next step will be. Listen to yourself and make your own decisions.
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