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WHAT DOES THIRSTY MEAN?
What Does Thirsty Mean

Let’s chat about the word “thirsty.” If you guys don't know what it means, it’s when a guy (or girl) is showing a lot of interest in someone they’re attracted to. When a girl feels a guy is giving too much attention she might call him “thirsty.” In the girl’s eyes, he's doing too much. Yes, there are creepy guys out there that are annoying - they call 24/7, text too much etc. I'm not talking about those guys. I'm talking about a nice cute guy that starts to show interest in you. Then, because he’s showing interest instead of ignoring you, he gets call thirsty.

Let me break this down. If you like a guy and he makes effort to get to know you, that's not a bad thing. That’s what you want. Someone you like, to like you back. If you call a guy thirsty because he doesn’t wait 6 hours to text you back. Then the problem is with you and your self-worth. Let me reiterate I’m not talking about creepy guys. I'm talking about normal guys, doing normal things to date you.

We have this idea that chasing a guy that’s not interested is cool. Whereas a guy showing he’s available is a turn-off. We need to shift those ideas. It’s not cool to be into the guy that doesn't show any interest in you. That hardly texts you back, makes dates and breaks them. That’s wack AF.

A guy that calls you when he says he's going to call you, texts you back right away and makes plans is not thirsty. That is a guy about his business and doesn't have time for games. You deserve a guy to treat you well. You don’t deserve to chase a guy that gives you half his time. I don’t like the term thirsty because sometimes it applies to guys trying to date the right way. We shouldn’t discourage that. We should embrace the attention as how a healthy relationship starts.

WATCH THE VIDEO: HE’S THIRSTY

What are your thoughts on the word “thirsty?” Let me know in the comments.

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Top Signs You're About to be Friend zoned
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How to avoid the friend zone? I’m going to teach you how to pump the breaks before you become “a friend.” If it’s too late and you’re already in the friend zone you might want to check out “3 Tips to Get Out The friend zone.”

Anyway, the girl you like is cute, fun and you enjoy spending time with her. You’re not sure if she’s interested, but you have a good rapport when you see her. So, how do you avoid becoming her BFF? Now, can guys and girls be friends? YES. This topic isn’t about that. It’s about when you like a girl and you want to be more than friends.

You have to make your intentions clear from the get-go. You tell her, “hey I want to go on a date with you. I'm interested in you on a deeper level.” When she hits you with friendship goals. You let her know you can’t be friends because of your feelings for her. You say it all up front. Trust me, you don’t want to be three years down the line - seeing her getting married while she makes you her Man of Honor.

Here are the Top 2 signs you’re heading to the friend zone.

SHE ASKS YOU FOR FAVORS

She asks you to help her move, paint her house or any other service around the house. She hangs out with you with no makeup on in her rattiest pajamas with her hair fucked up. She doesn’t care if she sees you when she’s sick.

TALKS ABOUT OTHER GUYS

She talks to you about other guys and asked for dating advice. You’re not her therapist. You don’t want to hear about the guy she hooked up with that, aren’t you!

Those are the main signs you’re heading into the friend zone. If she does either of those cut the friendship off.

Remember Make your intentions clear. Even if you’re nervous about rejection, you’ll be okay. It’s better to know! That way, you can move on if you need to. You’re never going to enjoy a friendship if you’re harboring loving feelings. Do not torture yourself, be real with yourself and your feelings.

WATCH THE VIDEO: HOW TO AVOID THE FRIEND ZONE

Are there any other tips for avoiding the friend zone? Let me know!

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3 TIPS TO GET OUT THE FRIEND ZONE
3 tips to get out the friend zone

How to get out of the friend zone? So, you've fallen deep into a friendship with your true love. It's not too late to turn it around and get out of the dreaded friend zone. In fact, I'm going to give you three tips on how to make the girl you like see you as more than a friend.

STOP BEING AVAILABLE

Guys in the friend zone tend to be available all the time. They’re the guys you depend on. The best friend that's always there. So your ass, as the guy in the friend zone, needs to fall back. Stop being so available when she needs you. Don’t be on call for her, she's not your girlfriend. She's your friend, leave her alone and take time for yourself. Find your own hobbies, don't be so connected with hers. This is about not overextending yourself and saying no sometimes. At the end of the day, the guy she likes, is probably not helping her move. He's the one ignoring her and that's what she likes. So you need to be the guy that says, “you know what? I can't help you this time.” You'll feel better about yourself when you do!

MAKE A DRASTIC CHANGE

Next up, you have to make a drastic change. Remember, this is what you want. If you want her to see you different you have to change. This change can be physical. You can start working out more. It can be style related or you can get a new hobby. I'm not telling you to change. But if you want this friend zone action out of the picture they have to see you in a new light. If you think this sounds like too much work and I'm pretty sure it is. Remember, at the end of the day, this may not even be worth it. 

MOVE ON

The last way to get out of the friend zone is my favorite because it has to do with you moving on. Date someone new and cute. Guarantee if your friend has feelings for you, you’ll see the jealousy. Girls can't hide it. They’ll talk about the new girl you're dating. Ask you questions about her etc. If you're not ready to date someone new. Since you're so hung up on the girl that friend zoned you. Then here's the weak way to do this. Find her best friend or girl in her circle that she knows. Start telling her about liking this girl. If your friend is like “oh my god! I'm so excited for you. Let me set it up!” Abort mission. You're not going to ever get out this friendship.

Getting out the friend zone is rough. Ultimately it's up to the girl whether she see's you as more than a friend. Do you want to wait for that? It's best to cultivate the friendship for what it is. A friendship. I want to give one final disclaimer. A last ditch effort If none of this works. Disappear for three to five years and don’t be in her life. It worked for Ryan Reynolds in "Just Friends."

WATCH THE VIDEO: GET OUT THE FRIENDZONE

What are some tips I missed? Let me know in the comments!

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How To See Her With No Makeup
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We’re going to talk about, how to see a girl without makeup. This is a special request from one of my viewers in relation to dating. I understand that with all the makeup tutorial videos you guys see the magic that we can do with makeup. I've had guys I’m dating want to see what I look like without my makeup. Let’s be honest, most guys don't understand how makeup works. They don't know how much makeup you have on until you take it off. Here are some sneaky ways to see her without makeup:

SLEEPOVER

In dating, anything that involves a sleepover is a good way for you to see her without makeup. Say you're about to fall asleep you ask her, “hey are you going to take your makeup off before bed?” This will work because she knows you notice she's about to go to sleep with her full fucking face beat with makeup. So, she'll do a half-assed face wash but kind of keep her eyeliner on or some shit.

SHOWER PLAY

If you've been dating for awhile and have passed the hookup phase. You can mention how you’d love to shower together. Say, “I've always wanted have sex in the shower.” Once you’re in the shower that water will hit cause it's hard to avoid water in the shower. Play around in the shower awhile. I mean it’s still fun! Then when the time strikes, take a wash cloth like you're helping her clean. Be sexy about it then wipe her face clean.

BUILD HER UP

My last advice which is the most important is to build her confidence up. Let her know you don't care what she looks like without her makeup. That you think she's beautiful and that you love her personality. Mean it when you say it! If you’re trying to hit it and not date. Then you’re an asshole if you use this move. But it’s okay if you curious because you care about this girl and want her to be vulnerable with you. Once she opens up to you without makeup you can do something like a fart to ease the mood. I'm kidding don't fart.

I don't know where I'm taking this... it was a weird request. I wish there was an equal topic for girls. Like find out about his dick print in sweats. Don’t forget you can just tell her you’d like to see her without makeup once in awhile. Remember wearing makeup is her decision, not yours!

WATCH THE VIDEO: GIRLS WITHOUT MAKEUP

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NO NEW FRIENDS
No New Friends

We're going to be talking about an observation that I made after graduating college. Which is, it’s damn near impossible to make friends, especially with the opposite sex, as an adult. The friend zone collection that you’ve grown and cherished since high school. It dies and dries up. I’m not saying it’s impossible to make friends. The quantity and speed which you make them diminish.

My reasoning for this is, in high school and college you're surrounded by people. You're put in groups, you go to parties and you walk to class. Meeting people everywhere you look! Then you graduate, jump right into a job and yes you can make friends at your job. But let’s be honest, you're working, you're fucking paying bills and this shit is hard. Adulting is fucking hard. You're tired all the time, you're fucking tired. Do you really want to spend time making friends? Especially if you're part of the single as fuck crew. In that case, you’d rather date than make friends.

Speaking of dating, not a good place to find friends. Letting you know now. So, the next time you meet someone through a dating app and think "I don’t want to hook up but they’d make a great friend." STOP. They don’t want to be your friend. They're not there to be your friend. They don’t have time for that and they’re TIRED too. The last thing they want to do on their day off. When they’re trying to get it in, is hang out with you. Their new friend. Believe me, they already have friends remember? They hardly see them cause they're tired.

If you’re in high school or college collect as many friends as you can. Then once you graduate you can make more friends through those old ones. It’s not impossible, but it’s harder than you think. You have to think strategically if you want to achieve these post college friends.

The more I analyze this, why would you even want more friends? They're a lot of work. But, some of you want them. Because you love to having people in the friendzone whether to paint your house or walk your dog. To you I say, don’t give up hope! In this crazy matrix of life, you can make friends! Even if everyone is dating and tired of this shit.

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Have you found that it’s harder to make friends as an adult? Let me know in the comments! 

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Secrets Girls Do On Dates
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There's excitement when it comes to dating someone new. You build them up in your head and they either surpass expectations or fall flat. When it comes to sex, women have the decision-making power. I find nothing wrong if you're a lady that likes to be a freak in the sheets on the first date or wait it out for awhile. Either way, the temptation is real AF sometimes. Especially when trying to hold out on sex for a few more dates. 

If you're, a guy, wondering, "will you get laid?" Here are some secrets girls do, on dates, to hold out a little longer.

1. DON'T SHAVE OUR BODY - Yep that's right, we become furry animals. Especially when we're not ready to invite you to pantyland. The weather could be 90 degrees. We might show up to the date in long sleeves, skinny jeans, and knee-high boots. All to cover up the chastity belt of protective body hair.

2. BODY CONSCIOUS DRESSES - Wearing a dress that hugs the body. Under that tight dress, is the second layer of skin called Spanx. This constrains rolls, bulges and that cake we ate before the date. If you thought it was hard to unsnap a bra. Don't even get started on this, you'll lose the battle. 

3. PROFESSIONAL GRADE MAKEUP - For me, I have many different makeup looks. One of them includes "don't touch my face." Means my eyebrows are on fleek and my lipstick is impenetrable. Chances are if she has a lot of makeup on. She doesn't feel like leaving an imprint it on your pillow. When I know sex might be going down, I wear lighter makeup.

Disclaimer - these secrets are to help us stay strong. They don't always work. Which can, of course, lead to funny stories and great sex. I'm just letting you know, if you encounter these situations, don't get your hopes up.

Check out my latest YouTube video, "Will I Get Laid?" - which breaks down these points in funny detail.

Are There Any Secrets I Missed? Let Me Know In The Comments!

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Top 5 Places To Find DATES!
Top 5 places to find dates

If you're lacking in significant other, than you're part of the SINGLE AF CREW. It's not a bad place to be. It brings awareness to your situation and makes you feel less alone. In my latest video, you'll find the Top 5 Places To Find Dates. Make sure you brush up on your awkwardness before tackling these places. In my case, I just accept my inner awkward. You'll be happy to know that this list does not include clubs and bars. Those places can be zoos and I'm not trying to throw you into the jungle.

Top 5 Places to Find Dates

1. Coffee Shops - Yes, just like the movies this can happen. But, you have to go to the poppin coffee shops. Yep. Annoying I know, but you have to go where people are to meet someone. 

2. Sports Oriented Sh!t - Go to a sporting event or join an adult sports league. This is a great way to meet someone in daylight, soberish, while being active. Plus, you can see if they have an awkward run.

3. Grocery Stores - Face it, we all have to eat or we'll die. There's a great chance that at some point during the week you'll find someone here. Maybe your hands will touch while reaching for the same cereal.

4. HOUSE PARTIES - It's a dying breed the older you get. Yet, people love house parties. It's the feeling of being able to talk to people that have common interests. In this case, your friends. It's a dating app, but in real life.

5. Gym - Get a membership or class pass and use this to your advantage. It's also good for your health. In trying to find a man or woman. You might trick your body into some abs. It's a double win.

The best part about this Top 5 is that it comes full circle. You might run into that cutie from the gym at the grocery store. The guy you met at the house party might be in your coffee shop. People, this is the trifecta of dating. Use it.

Where have you been successful in meeting people? Let me know in the comments!

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CRUSH IF YOU'RE AWKWARD
How to talk to your crush if you're awkward

When it comes to letting my crushes know how I feel. I could use some work. I'm awesome an initiating conversation. It's just, how I start it and where it goes. I felt like I wasn't alone in my quest to get better with crushes. Therefore, I came up with some tips for talking to your crush if you're awkward. Watch my latest YouTube to see full details on my tips to talking to your crush.

Here's a brief overview:

1. Initiate Conversation - Whether it's going up to them in a bar or texting them first. Sometimes you just have to balls up and get it done.

2. Touch Them - Not in a creepy way. But in a playful touch his/her shoulder when they say something witty and on fire way.

3. Be Vulnerable - Nobody has time to wonder for months if you're just friends or more. Just let them know up front and save everyone some time in the process.

BONUS TIP: Get Drunk - Yep if all else fails, take a shot. This will make steps 1 - 3 easier to do. Also, this applies to adults that know what they're doing.

What tips do you have for talking to your crush? Let me know in the comments!

My Date With a Vampire
my date with a vampire

Yes, I went on a date with a real life vampire and lived to tell the story. To my defense, I didn't know he was a vampire until halfway through the dinner. To me, he looked like a regular L.A. Guy. I learned about the different types of vampires and underground vampire meetings. Watch the video below to hear the whole story and question if you're a "Vegan Vampire."

Do you have any crazy dating stories? Share in the comments!

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