No New Friends

We're going to be talking about an observation that I made after graduating college. Which is, it’s damn near impossible to make friends, especially with the opposite sex, as an adult. The friend zone collection that you’ve grown and cherished since high school. It dies and dries up. I’m not saying it’s impossible to make friends. The quantity and speed which you make them diminish.

My reasoning for this is, in high school and college you're surrounded by people. You're put in groups, you go to parties and you walk to class. Meeting people everywhere you look! Then you graduate, jump right into a job and yes you can make friends at your job. But let’s be honest, you're working, you're fucking paying bills and this shit is hard. Adulting is fucking hard. You're tired all the time, you're fucking tired. Do you really want to spend time making friends? Especially if you're part of the single as fuck crew. In that case, you’d rather date than make friends.

Speaking of dating, not a good place to find friends. Letting you know now. So, the next time you meet someone through a dating app and think "I don’t want to hook up but they’d make a great friend." STOP. They don’t want to be your friend. They're not there to be your friend. They don’t have time for that and they’re TIRED too. The last thing they want to do on their day off. When they’re trying to get it in, is hang out with you. Their new friend. Believe me, they already have friends remember? They hardly see them cause they're tired.

If you’re in high school or college collect as many friends as you can. Then once you graduate you can make more friends through those old ones. It’s not impossible, but it’s harder than you think. You have to think strategically if you want to achieve these post college friends.

The more I analyze this, why would you even want more friends? They're a lot of work. But, some of you want them. Because you love to having people in the friendzone whether to paint your house or walk your dog. To you I say, don’t give up hope! In this crazy matrix of life, you can make friends! Even if everyone is dating and tired of this shit.


Have you found that it’s harder to make friends as an adult? Let me know in the comments! 


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